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Elegant Lady's Boudoir

Posted on June 29, 2014 at 1:15 PM

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Deborah Raffin, Elegant Survivor

Posted on November 25, 2012 at 8:55 AM

Deborah Raffin, 1953--2012

Beautiful blonde actress Deborah Raffin became a philanthropic entrepreneur when after a very successful film career she and her husband began producing books-on-tape, which benefit greatly those who cannot see to read. An Associated Press obituary for Ms Raffin dated November 24th, 2012, details another one of her charitable projects: "Ms. Raffin also compiled celebrities’ Christmas anecdotes for a 1990 book, “Sharing Christmas,” which raised money for groups serving the homeless. It included stories from Margaret Thatcher, Kermit the Frog and Mother Teresa."

In the mid-1970s, I was on-set with Deborah Raffin and Edward Albert Jr., appearing in one scene at a big band dining-and-dancing venue. Edward Albert came to my table and asked me for "a match", whereupon I lit his cigarette. 1930s clothing and music are fabulous; there was a live, professional swing band, so I had a blast. 

Deborah Raffin was elegant and lovely, a shining example of womanhood who made the world a better place for the disadvantaged.

©M-J de Mesterton 2012

Hatred Makes You Ugly

Posted on July 27, 2012 at 10:25 AM

Have you ever noticed that the more resentful and jealous a woman is, the more wrinkles she has? The most important age-preventing measure for your face is being a member of the Clear Conscience Club--you know, the one whose members get a good night's sleep. When people carry around the burdens of hatred and envy, resentments and greed, these destructive inner elements inevitably manifest themselves on their faces.

Here is a quote from an interview by Linda Holmes with elegant, ageless singer Darlene Love, whose work in the 1960s with music innovator Phil Spector catapulted her to fame and made her into the exploited victim of a megalomaniac who was ethically-challenged, and for whom loyalty was a foreign concept:

"I have no reason to hate him," she says, "and I never did, because I always found that hate makes you ugly. Makes you have wrinkles. Which I don't have." Here, she laughed. "But you know what? That has a whole lot to do with your insides. When you hate people, it not only makes you hate that person, it gives that vibe off for everything around you. I really do believe that. So I really did try hard not to dislike him and always be the good guy, and say what I say about him and nothing bad. 'Cause it doesn't help."

Announcing a New Page at Elegant Survival

Posted on May 15, 2009 at 4:03 PM

History Bytes

Vintage Photograph Hand-Coloured in Oil by M-J de Mesterton, 1979